Horrible My heart breaks for Janelle

OMG Gabe was the one that found him. This just breaks my heart.

I texted Doug, since he is Flagstaff right now. I haven't heard anything, yet.

Yeah this is just awful news. Three of the adults have released identical statements.

I wouldn't expect much. I'll be the first to say it though.... this is Kody's fault. I doubt he'll realize it even now.

I have been texting with Doug, everyone is devastated.

Who wouldn't be? I'd say they all are except for Kody. He's not capable of feeling anything but for himself.

I wish people would start taking mental health more seriously and eliminate the stigma associated with it.
The world has become self entitled and extremely self centered and just simply do not care about one another.

@terriecoleman said:

Who wouldn't be? I'd say they all are except for Kody. He's not capable of feeling anything but for himself.

I wish people would start taking mental health more seriously and eliminate the stigma associated with it.
The world has become self entitled and extremely self centered and just simply do not care about one another.

So true.

Janelle did mention that she was concerned about his mental health, but there is only so much one can do. A co-worker committed suicide and everyone saw it coming. I called her trying to get her some help, but they always have the right answers. She told me that she was in a group. She was taking a course -- not counseling. She said she was glad that I wasn't someone trying to get her into counseling.

I read an article about high functioning depression. It's not really recognized by the mental health community yet but apparently it is a thing and I believe it and that is a real thing.

Depression doesn't always mean laying in bed all day.

Everyone is quick to say "get counseling" or "see a therapist" or even mostly "suck it up buttercup" (that one makes me angry). Therapy is expensive and I don't think insurance covers it all the time. Someone doesn't want to feel they are bothering someone or to be worried due to feelings that nobody cares (in this day and age they do not)

While we only know what we were presented in the show, it was clear from that that they way Kody was treating Garrison (and some others) affected him deeply. It's sad Kody didn't see that and didn't do anything to recitify it. Now he has to live with that.

The sad thing is that people who actually commit suicide don't talk about it, it wasn't a cry for help, it was a solution. People who talk about suicide are most likely to be unsuccessful, because they leave clues behind and are found before they are dead. People that actually commit suicide are described as seeming to come to a high point in their life. They report feeling happy and family members see them as being able to tackle their depression. That is because they decided that suicide was the solution to their depression. Suicide is a solution for people who succeed.

Back in the late 1970's a good friend of mine, and fellow Social Worker, committed suicide. She worked every day with Social Workers and Psychologists; none of us saw the signs that Jan would kill herself. Most of us weren't even aware that she suffered from depression. That is how depression works; e.g., the person living inside of themselves is the only one that knows how bad it is. In the week before Jan's suicide she finished up paperwork for her caseload (which was long overdue), sent her daughter off with her ex-husband for the weekend, and went out on Friday night for drinks with all of us that worked with her. We were all celebrating her getting her case notes caught up. She was truly happy that night. Then she went home and shot herself.

Her partner found her on Sunday after she returned from a conference. Jan had been planning this in advance. She didn't want her daughter to find her. Her partner was devastated, but Jan, in true form, left her a note including instructions of what to do.

Thankfully our employer (a school district) brought in people to help the pupil service personnel (her co workers), especially those of us who were her friends. They also rolled out people to help her students. That was a major year of therapy for all of us.

I've been reading the tributes his siblings have been giving to him on Instagram. In addition there have been tributes from Janelle, Christine, and Meri. God I hope TLC is paying for a therapist, or two, or six, for this family.

Apparently they had a funeral for him on the 9th of March.

🦗 from Robyn and her kids?

@jonnieblack said:

🦗 from Robyn and her kids?

Robyn and her kids don't do anything on social media. But that is Robyn and her kids choise. The thing that I think of about Robyn is that her younger brother checked out the exact same way. He shot himself.

I didn’t know that and you are right, it’s her choice.

@terriecoleman said:

While we only know what we were presented in the show, it was clear from that that they way Kody was treating Garrison (and some others) affected him deeply. It's sad Kody didn't see that and didn't do anything to recitify it. Now he has to live with that.

It's clear that won't be explored on the show, because Kody is going to squash that discussion.

Of course he would. Anything that blames him he'd never go along with.

I'm sorry but the blame is soley on Kody and Robyn both for Garrison doing this. I mean, yeah, there could be more to the story but we'll never know what it is. My heart literally breaks for Janelle. I can't imagine how she's feeling.