@znexyish said:

If Anu puts an end to all of Raj's drama then I will be happy. Besides why does she have to be "hot". It's not like Raj is some kind of Adonis. I wonder is Anu is going to sit on the floor with Raj when they get together to eat carry out with the rest of the gang ? I hope she puts an end to that. As for Priya there were a lot of people who couldn't stand her personality, looks aside.

@wonder2wonder said:

Although it's only a sitcom, the actor's real life wife Neha Kapur (Miss India 2006), wouldn't want him (as Raj) having a television wife who is more beautiful than she is.

So poor Raj will have to settle for someone who is pretty, but not enough to cause any jealousy (and pesky gossip in the social media).

They know his type--so, decided to cast against it to avoid .

@MrCharmingMan said:

@Knixon said:

And questionnaires are not dispositive either. As I say about other things, no big hand comes down from the sky to make them answer truthfully and/or accurately. But even if it did, the idea of having "compatible" answers is just a human construct too. They could give all the same "compatible" answers yet still end up divorcing if one of them changes their mind about having children for example, which they might seem to be setting up for Leonard and Penny.

Thats true, it seems most would fill out questionnaires to make their own-self seem more attractive and compatible. I doubt anyone would show their true colors and full deck on those questionnaires.

A study I saw said like 70% of people online lie about everything to appear more desirable.

Not surprised!

Anyway...

When it comes to arranged marriage, as opposed to online dating, there aren't any strangers-meeting-strangers in the blind. Each has been vetted by/is known to third parties (families) and is to everyone’s satisfaction before the couple-to-be ever meets. Of course, that still doesn’t mean that things will work out between them—that whole human nature thing being what it is. But, it does mean that someone, say, employed to empty trash on a college campus (no disrespect) is not likely to get away with insinuating that they are employed as a professor. Or, that someone who everyone knows never met a bottle of anything they didn't like can pass themselves off as a teetotaler.

ON ANOTHER NOTE:

Was curious; so decided to look at some stats re: online dating; some of it surprised me some didn’t…

-1- Things people (81%) lie about the most: height, weight or age. (not surprised).
-2- People with the word “love” in their profile are more likely to find love.
-3- Guys spend 50% less time reading online dating profiles.
-4- Race and class are the most important factors to daters.  
-5-The algorithms can’t predict whether two people are compatible. (surprised--If that's the case why bother?)
-6- One-third of online daters never go on dates with people they meet on line.
-7- Women who don’t drink receive 24% fewer messages than women who do. (surprised)
-8- 30% of women run their profile by a friend – 16% of men do.
-9- Couples who meet online are more likely to break up.
-10- Couples who meet online are less likely to divorce. (surprised)
-11- Online dating saves people about $6400. (Attributed to onliners not dating as long as non-onliners before marriage.)

(Got this from a site called “mentalfloss”- I’m not linking it because: (1) I didn't copy it verbatim; (2)it’s general stuff you can find anywhere. - I was on my way to the “eharmony site”—but stopped here instead.)

@FormerlyKnownAs said:

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ON ANOTHER NOTE:

Was curious; so decided to look at some stats re: online dating; some of it surprised me some didn’t…

-1- Things people (81%) lie about the most: height, weight or age. (not surprised).
-2- People with the word “love” in their profile are more likely to find love.
-3- Guys spend 50% less time reading online dating profiles.
-4- Race and class are the most important factors to daters.  
-5-The algorithms can’t predict whether two people are compatible. (surprised--If that's the case why bother?)
-6- One-third of online daters never go on dates with people they meet on line.
-7- Women who don’t drink receive 24% fewer messages than women who do. (surprised)
-8- 30% of women run their profile by a friend – 16% of men do.
-9- Couples who meet online are more likely to break up.
-10- Couples who meet online are less likely to divorce. (surprised)
-11- Online dating saves people about $6400. (Attributed to onliners not dating as long as non-onliners before marriage.)

**(Got this from a site called “mentalfloss”- **I’m not linking it because: (1) I didn't copy it verbatim; (2)it’s general stuff you can find anywhere. - I was on my way to the “eharmony site”—but stopped here instead.)

Mental Floss was this great magazine in print from 2001 to 2016. I used to subscribe to it then it went out of print and from the looks of the site has turned into typical internet mush "geared to millenials" as my search found out. Well it was good while it lasted. Hard to describe without having an actual paper issue to show you.

@FormerlyKnownAs said:

@MrCharmingMan said:

@Knixon said:

And questionnaires are not dispositive either. As I say about other things, no big hand comes down from the sky to make them answer truthfully and/or accurately. But even if it did, the idea of having "compatible" answers is just a human construct too. They could give all the same "compatible" answers yet still end up divorcing if one of them changes their mind about having children for example, which they might seem to be setting up for Leonard and Penny.

Thats true, it seems most would fill out questionnaires to make their own-self seem more attractive and compatible. I doubt anyone would show their true colors and full deck on those questionnaires.

A study I saw said like 70% of people online lie about everything to appear more desirable.

Not surprised!

Anyway...

When it comes to arranged marriage, as opposed to online dating, there aren't any strangers-meeting-strangers in the blind. Each has been vetted by/is known to third parties (families) and is to everyone’s satisfaction before the couple-to-be ever meets. Of course, that still doesn’t mean that things will work out between them—that whole human nature thing being what it is. But, it does mean that someone, say, employed to empty trash on a college campus (no disrespect) is not likely to get away with insinuating that they are employed as a professor. Or, that someone who everyone knows never met a bottle of anything they didn't like can pass themselves off as a teetotaler.

How well does that work for Raj? He's been away from his family for many years. And what they do know about him, doesn't seem likely to impress a girl's family with his prospects.

@Knixon said:

@FormerlyKnownAs said:

@MrCharmingMan said:

@Knixon said:

And questionnaires are not dispositive either. As I say about other things, no big hand comes down from the sky to make them answer truthfully and/or accurately. But even if it did, the idea of having "compatible" answers is just a human construct too. They could give all the same "compatible" answers yet still end up divorcing if one of them changes their mind about having children for example, which they might seem to be setting up for Leonard and Penny.

Thats true, it seems most would fill out questionnaires to make their own-self seem more attractive and compatible. I doubt anyone would show their true colors and full deck on those questionnaires.

A study I saw said like 70% of people online lie about everything to appear more desirable.

Not surprised!

Anyway...

When it comes to arranged marriage, as opposed to online dating, there aren't any strangers-meeting-strangers in the blind. Each has been vetted by/is known to third parties (families) and is to everyone’s satisfaction before the couple-to-be ever meets. Of course, that still doesn’t mean that things will work out between them—that whole human nature thing being what it is. But, it does mean that someone, say, employed to empty trash on a college campus (no disrespect) is not likely to get away with insinuating that they are employed as a professor. Or, that someone who everyone knows never met a bottle of anything they didn't like can pass themselves off as a teetotaler.

How well does that work for Raj? He's been away from his family for many years. And what they do know about him, doesn't seem likely to impress a girl's family with his prospects.

WHOA! Great points made Knixon

His father basically said enough in a recent episode: "You're a grown man who can't get by without an allowance from his family. Women don't want that!" And "You're also too sensitive! Women don't want that either!"

Sure, they might talk up his Ph.D in astrophysics and working at Caltech (and maybe the planetarium too). But he basically gets his income from Sheldon's grant funding, still, as far as we know. Plus he lives above Bert's garage, and he can't even afford to go to ComicCon.

@Knixon said:

His father basically said enough in a recent episode: "You're a grown man who can't get by without an allowance from his family. Women don't want that!" And "You're also too sensitive! Women don't want that either!"

Sure, they might talk up his Ph.D in astrophysics and working at Caltech (and maybe the planetarium too). But he basically gets his income from Sheldon's grant funding, still, as far as we know. Plus he lives above Bert's garage, and he can't even afford to go to ComicCon.

LMAO! Hilarious I totally forgot all those details. HE's always hanging out with the crew that I forgot his current situation.

What matters now is what Anu thinks of all that, when she finds out. Most likely she didn't find out from her parents/Raj's parents, so, as Leonard and Penny said about Bernadette first meeting Howard, "That will be a wonderful surprise for her!"

In reality, she might be fine with Raj as a "house-husband" since she apparently has a lot more career ambition than Raj does. But while Raj could find that very "romantic" (or something) at first, it might grate on him after a while.

@MrCharmingMan said:

@Knixon said:

@FormerlyKnownAs said:

@MrCharmingMan said:

@Knixon said:

And questionnaires are not dispositive either. As I say about other things, no big hand comes down from the sky to make them answer truthfully and/or accurately. But even if it did, the idea of having "compatible" answers is just a human construct too. They could give all the same "compatible" answers yet still end up divorcing if one of them changes their mind about having children for example, which they might seem to be setting up for Leonard and Penny.

Thats true, it seems most would fill out questionnaires to make their own-self seem more attractive and compatible. I doubt anyone would show their true colors and full deck on those questionnaires.

A study I saw said like 70% of people online lie about everything to appear more desirable.

Not surprised!

Anyway...

When it comes to arranged marriage, as opposed to online dating, there aren't any strangers-meeting-strangers in the blind. Each has been vetted by/is known to third parties (families) and is to everyone’s satisfaction before the couple-to-be ever meets. Of course, that still doesn’t mean that things will work out between them—that whole human nature thing being what it is. But, it does mean that someone, say, employed to empty trash on a college campus (no disrespect) is not likely to get away with insinuating that they are employed as a professor. Or, that someone who everyone knows never met a bottle of anything they didn't like can pass themselves off as a teetotaler.

How well does that work for Raj? He's been away from his family for many years. And what they do know about him, doesn't seem likely to impress a girl's family with his prospects.

WHOA! Great points made Knixon

And yet--they (meaning her family) approved the meet-up with Raj. Obviously, he met with their satisfaction--and even after the meet, he still meets hers.

@znexyish said:

Mental Floss was this great magazine in print from 2001 to 2016. I used to subscribe to it then it went out of print and from the looks of the site has turned into typical internet mush "geared to millenials" as my search found out. Well it was good while it lasted. Hard to describe without having an actual paper issue to show you.

Had never heard of "Mental Floss" before stumbling up that online dating piece.

Those flashy, attention-getting headlines will pull you in every time. You know when you see one that it's probably going to be (as you said) "mush"; still, if it's on topic, kind of hard not to take a look-see.

In the past Raj's friends were against "arranged" marriages: "He should marry for love".

Now that they're all married, they've accepted that Raj cannot ever get a wife the "normal" way, and so this is Raj's only and last hope for happiness: a family, a wife and children.

Anu is a strong and independent woman, but she is in her thirties and the (biological) clock is ticking.

Her parents are happy that their daughter isn't the "rebel" anymore, and that she wants to settle.
However, they understand that this won't be easy.

In the market of arranged marriages she faces strong competition from younger, more attractive women.

So, if Raj and Anu agree, the family won't object.
Of course they're also glad that there won't be any dowry (which is illegal).

Raj and Anu will learn to love each other.

And Raj will be a great father to his children.

Note:

Hopefully Cinnamon won't be jealous (of Anu and the children).
Perhaps they should arrange a marriage for her too.

@FormerlyKnownAs said:

@MrCharmingMan said:

@Knixon said:

@FormerlyKnownAs said:

@MrCharmingMan said:

@Knixon said:

And questionnaires are not dispositive either. As I say about other things, no big hand comes down from the sky to make them answer truthfully and/or accurately. But even if it did, the idea of having "compatible" answers is just a human construct too. They could give all the same "compatible" answers yet still end up divorcing if one of them changes their mind about having children for example, which they might seem to be setting up for Leonard and Penny.

Thats true, it seems most would fill out questionnaires to make their own-self seem more attractive and compatible. I doubt anyone would show their true colors and full deck on those questionnaires.

A study I saw said like 70% of people online lie about everything to appear more desirable.

Not surprised!

Anyway...

When it comes to arranged marriage, as opposed to online dating, there aren't any strangers-meeting-strangers in the blind. Each has been vetted by/is known to third parties (families) and is to everyone’s satisfaction before the couple-to-be ever meets. Of course, that still doesn’t mean that things will work out between them—that whole human nature thing being what it is. But, it does mean that someone, say, employed to empty trash on a college campus (no disrespect) is not likely to get away with insinuating that they are employed as a professor. Or, that someone who everyone knows never met a bottle of anything they didn't like can pass themselves off as a teetotaler.

How well does that work for Raj? He's been away from his family for many years. And what they do know about him, doesn't seem likely to impress a girl's family with his prospects.

WHOA! Great points made Knixon

And yet--they (meaning her family) approved the meet-up with Raj. Obviously, he met with their satisfaction--and even after the meet, he still meets hers.

But what did they really know about Raj, at that time? Probably only what his family told them. Do you think they told Anu's parents about all of Raj's oddities? I doubt it. They probably said that he's a Ph.D in astrophysics and works at Caltech, but not that he's basically paid by Sheldon (which could change at any time) and lives above Bert's garage. And Anu is only starting to find out about them too. Remember, she didn't know from meeting him, that he likes to wear women's deodorant. She found that out from Bernadette and Penny. And that might be one of his lesser oddities.

@Knixon said:

But what did they really know about Raj, at that time? Probably only what his family told them. Do you think they told Anu's parents about all of Raj's oddities? I doubt it. They probably said that he's a Ph.D in astrophysics and works at Caltech, but not that he's basically paid by Sheldon (which could change at any time) and lives above Bert's garage. And Anu is only starting to find out about them too. Remember, she didn't know from meeting him, that he likes to wear women's deodorant. She found that out from Bernadette and Penny. And that might be one of his lesser oddities.

Bernadette accepted Howard with all his oddities. It took a while, there was even a breakup, but they're married now with two children.

So, why wouldn't Anu, after some hesitation and silly situations, accept Raj for "better or worse"?

To put it simply, I would say that Howard's oddities aren't nearly as odd as Raj's. Probably not as numerous, either.